It’s funny, isn’t it? We often focus on what we want without thinking to ask our self if we’re ready for it. Can we run a marathon without training? It might be a challenging idea, but because you want something it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ready for it. Ask yourself- “Am I ready for lasting love?” It would be a tragedy to finally find your soul mate only to pass each other by like two ships in the night because you weren’t ready for the real thing.
Here’s a short, but very important 10-question quiz for you. To assess your readiness for a committed relationship rate yourself in each of the following ten areas. Try to be objective and honest with yourself. We recommend asking close friends and family members for their opinions as well. (Find your rating results by the colors: Red, Yellow or Green)
Please make sure you rate yourself from 0 – 10 on each question, then total it up at the bottom.
Once you have completed this quiz, then give Linda or Naftali a call at 858-652-1614 to discuss your results)
0 – 15 (Red light – Needs Work)
16 – 22 (Yellow light – OK)
23 – 30 (Green light – Good )
1 of 10: I KNOW WHAT I WANT – I have a clear vision for my life and relationship. I can envision my perfect life in rich detail that feels strong, very real, and keeps me motivated. ________
2 of 10: I KNOW MY REQUIREMENTS – I have a written list of at least ten non-negotiable requirements that I use for screening potential partners. I am clear that if any are missing a relationship will not work for me. _______
3 of 10: I AM HAPPY & SUCCESSFUL BEING SINGLE – I enjoy my life, my work, my family, my friends, and my own company. I am living the life that I want and I am not seeking a relationship out of desperation and need. ________
4 of 10: I AM READY & AVAILABLE FOR COMMITMENT – I have no emotional or legal baggage from a previous relationship. My schedule, commitments and lifestyle allow my availability to build a new relationship. _______
5 of 10: I AM SATISFIED WITH MY WORK/CAREER – My work is fulfilling, supports my lifestyle, and does not interfere with my availability for a new relationship. _________
6 of 10: I AM HEALTHY IN MIND, BODY AND SPIRIT – My physical, mental, or emotional health does not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. I am reasonably happy and feel good. _____
7 of 10: MY FINANCIAL & LEGAL BUSINESS IS HANDLED – I have no financial or legal issues that would interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. ____
8 of 10: MY FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS ARE FUNCTIONAL – My relationships with my children, ex, siblings, parents, and extended family do not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. ______
9 of 10: I HAVE EFFECTIVE DATING SKILLS – I initiate contact with people I want to meet and disengage from people who are not a match for me. I keep my physical and emotional boundaries and balance my heart with my head with potential partners. ______